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My CrossFit Induced Identity Crisis?

My CrossFit Induced Identity Crisis?

By Chuck · 13 Comments ·

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If you are anything like me, you can look back and see that your life has been a series on ongoing change. What was appropriate for you at 15 is not likely appropriate for you at 50.

That applies to social norms, education, sleep, food, exercise, relationships and more. If you hang onto what is dear to you at 25, you will not grow to appreciate being 40.

I know you understand what I am suggesting. There comes a time, when we must reject what was dear to us, to embrace what is required to continue our personal growth. Sometimes it is painful, because we feel we have too much invested in who we are, and that may prevent us from achieving who we want to be. It is a process of personal evolution.

For the past two years I have seen a CrossFitter when I shave in the mirror every morning.

My identity was deeply rooted in my daily routine. I awaken at 5:00 a.m., pack my clothes for work, pack a lunch and breakfast, make a cup of bulletproof coffee. Then I kiss Suzanne goodbye, and drive to the gym to play with the kids (everyone under 40).

At work, in town, at church, at social events, it was always the same story, “Gee, you’ve lost weight, you look great, you look stronger, younger, healthier…”

Then I would mention my two-year transformation with Paleo and CrossFit. I thought I had discovered the Holy Grail.

After two years, I see my needs changing. I still love CrossFit. It is like a buffet of fitness alternatives. But like every buffet, there are things I love and things I can do without. There are things that will serve be better in the long run, than others.

I have attained a healthy level of fitness, now I am refocusing my attention on sustainability. I now need to pay more attention to rest, recovery, nutrition, stress reduction and more. In plain English, I am reducing CrossFit’s prominence in my weekly fitness regimen. Back to the buffet analogy, I am consciously selecting what I want to place on my plate, and determine what to leave behind.

You may be thinking that is not a big deal. On the surface I agree. But, if your identity has been tied to what you do, instead of who you are, you may be facing some inner turmoil. I didn’t start doing CrossFit to be a CrossFitter. But I became one along the way. I also didn’t start CrossFit to be a weightlifter, or a rope jumper, or a rower. But I discovered I like these things.  Things I had never experienced in my first six decades.

I still love CrossFit. I will always appreciate CrossFit for the good that it has done for me. CrossFit has been good for me physically, psychologically, emotionally, and socially. I love all my friends from this awesome community.

But as I take the best, and leave the rest, I no longer identify myself as simply a CrossFitter. I see myself as a man who is embracing every day, confidently, healthy, vibrant and alive. CrossFit has released the emerging athlete from within, and freed me to pursue many things I never could, or never even imagined. Can you relate to what I am saying on this page? Some will, others won’t.

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  1. Julie Meyer says

    November 18, 2014 at 5:58 pm

    Spot ON!! Exactly how I feel at 59 and 2 years into CF.

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  2. John Jaramillo says

    November 18, 2014 at 6:12 pm

    Great article and summation of the transition/journey many of us have made.

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  3. Jennifer Laurino Palabay says

    November 18, 2014 at 7:32 pm

    great read, thanks for sharing! I definitely can relate to much of what you've shared.

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  4. John Wootton says

    November 18, 2014 at 7:34 pm

    I say good for you. You are broadening your definition of "self". There is nothing better that any of us can do for our "selves".

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  5. Shannon Leska says

    November 18, 2014 at 8:20 pm

    Thank you. Everything I didnt know how to explain to others, said so well:)

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  6. Sarah Catherine says

    November 18, 2014 at 8:58 pm

    Ahhh! The Journey!

    Reply
  7. Kimberly Klussmann says

    November 19, 2014 at 5:07 pm

    Really enjoyed (and relate to) this; thanks for sharing.

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  8. Jill Remshardt says

    November 19, 2014 at 5:13 pm

    Loved reading this as I am right where you are emotionally right now. Thx for ur expression on this topic.

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  9. Joan Oliver says

    November 19, 2014 at 6:49 pm

    Great article! Thank you for sharing! As an older CF'er I can identify with everything you posted.

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  10. Tracy Jones says

    November 19, 2014 at 11:41 pm

    Perfect! Thank you for putting into words what many of us feel.

    Reply

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